On Marriage and Education Pt II

This previous post has been bothering me for the last couple days... I keep thinking, "I sound too judgmental, there are different circumstances for everyone, people go back/go to school even after they are married and are perfectly happy". Sometimes, I think my preconceptions on how things should be, or how I think they should be really get in the way! So my revised list of what I think is important before getting married, I would like to remind again that this is my opinion.

1) It is important to be in a stable place; emotionally, mentally, financially, spiritually. The key is stability.
2) Be on the same page with your spouse-to-be, even with regards to the little things. (i.e. when you have kids, does he think they should believe in Santa Claus and you think it's wrong to lie to them; I actually know a couple that's working through this, and I think it matters.)
3) In following that, be on the same page with your spouse-to-be on the BIG things. The things that matter; child raising, faith, morals, budget ideas, goals/ambitions etc.
4) Love them and tell them everyday.

I think that circumstances arise that have to take priority; i.e. if you have a family and have good jobs, but you really want to go back to school I think that family comes first and you need to make sure that your whole family is ready and able for you (or both of you) to go back to school. I think if you are at the place where you are in school/preparing for school and looking towards marriage it would be wise to have your education under your belt, or at least have significant strides in that direction before pursuing marriage/family.

I hope this makes more sense, and you can read this with an open mind.

Love, H